Men, women and attire


Al-Fadl ibn Al-‘Abbas was riding behind the Prophet (ﷺ) as his companion rider on the Day of Nahr (slaughtering of sacrifice, 10th Dhul-Hijjah) Al-Fadl was a handsome man, the Prophet (ﷺ) stopped to give people verdicts. In the meantime, a beautiful woman From the tribe of Khath’am came, asking the verdict of Allāh’s Messenger (ﷺ). Al-Fadl started looking at her as her beauty attracted him. The Prophet (ﷺ) looked behind while Al-Fadl was looking at her; so the Prophet (ﷺ) held out his hand backwards and caught the chin of Al-Fadl and turned his face. She then asked her question, and he (ﷺ) answered.
What the Prophet (ﷺ) did not do:
◦ Pass comment or tell the woman to change her attire◦ Tell the woman to cover her face◦ Tell her that her appearance was too enticing
He (ﷺ) merely averted Al-Fadl’s stare.
So, how/why do some men (and women) effortlessly critique the apparel of others? Why is the emphasis often on the woman to conform to what the man views as acceptable? She observes the ḥijāb out of adherence to the most High, not you, or your thoughts.
It is so very dangerous to link clothing and outward appearance with a person’s religiosity. Every single person has their own battle, do not belittle them.
And Allāh alone knows best.