7 Remarkable Things About Khadija, Wife of the Prophet of Islam

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7 Remarkable Things About Khadija, Wife of the Prophet of Islam by Yasmina Blackburn

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If we could agree for a moment that there exists a pure definition of the word feminist to mean: awesomely fierce to the millionth degree, then I’d like to introduce you to Islam’s first feminist. Her name is Khadijah bint Khuwaylid (pbuh). She was the wife of the Prophet Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him.) And she is one of the people that I think about when I face or debate issues surrounding women today.

 

 

“Modern” or not hijab is worship

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“Modern” or not hijab is worship

 

Whenever I plan to buy an abaya or jilbab (outer gown) or hijab or khimar (a veil), I search from one shop to another and from one market to another for the latest stylish and unique piece. After an enormous effort I finally succeed in finding that trendy and distinctive piece that most appeals me.

However, one day I thought, “Why do I put so much effort into finding that distinctive piece? Why am I so careful about the design, about the color, about the style and the appearance as well?”

 

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teaching girls about hijab- Alima Ashfaq

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We were discussing the concept of hijab and introducing it to young women. Here are my thoughts:

Firstly, when a girl reaches the age of puberty, the hijab becomes important, so a parent can wait until then, but it is *essential* to prepare her; it will make it easier and is more just towards her, especially in our times.

Secondly, it needs to be a transition, and a process for young girls, which needs to be done lovingly. We need to inspire them with its purpose; it’s for Allah, alone, rather than remind them of the consequences of neglecting. Do we expect them to be inspired through fear? We inspire them by cultivating a love for God, and focusing on achieving our self worth through our obligations, and achievements in life. In addition to our relationship with God, rather than what other people think of us.

Thirdly, we need to teach them it’s for themselves, their decision, and motivate them by reminding of the reward, and possibilities which exist for them. It is unfair to expect young adults to embrace the headscarf without any preparation in younger years, or an adequate explanation. In today’s age, the peer pressure is immense, so it needs to be done well, and one of the best ways is to show you can wear the headscarf, and it doesn’t limit you. This can be done by showing examples of women who are achieving great things whilst they’re Muslim, women, and wear the hijab. As a parents, we could prepare a scrapbook of Muslim women who are great achievers, and leave the final page for our daughters, in an aim to inspire them.

Fourthly, we need to remind them they’re beautiful, with it and without it, as well as give them opportunities to let their hair down, dress up, look beautiful through other mediums, within halal settings.

Fifth, we shouldn’t feel guilty for being firm at times, if done with wisdom, don’t we insist our children wear their school uniform, or specific PE gear? Isn’t it expected to dress professionally when you go to work? No-one suggests we are forcing them, we are being forced to dress a certain manner by our employees. Rather we meeting the schools and works requirements, as are women.

Sixth, focus on teaching how it’s all-encompassing. The hijab revolves around exemplary character, and a component of success for her to she to achieve great things in life through her internal character, will, and desire to make a different. SubhanAllah, there is so much scope to make the whole process exciting! When we make their character a focus, we will teach them the importance of being non-judgemental, kind, and gentle with others. Everyone is on their own personal journey, including them.

Wouldn’t it be amazing if we had a hijab welcoming party? So the girls look forward to becoming an adult? Honestly, if I was a child I would be super excited if it was done right, and look forward to becoming a ‘woman’ rather than dread the thought, from a child or parental perspective!

photo by Zahra Summayah 2014World Hijab Day (Australia) 2014

Men, women and attire |

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Al-Fadl ibn Al-‘Abbas was riding behind the Prophet (ﷺ) as his companion rider on the Day of Nahr (slaughtering of sacrifice, 10th Dhul-Hijjah) Al-Fadl was a handsome man, the Prophet (ﷺ) stopped to give people verdicts. In the meantime, a beautiful woman From the tribe of Khath’am came, asking the verdict of Allāh’s Messenger (ﷺ). Al-Fadl started looking at her as her beauty attracted him. The Prophet (ﷺ) looked behind while Al-Fadl was looking at her; so the Prophet (ﷺ) held out his hand backwards and caught the chin of Al-Fadl and turned his face. She then asked her question, and he (ﷺ) answered.
[Bukhārī]
What the Prophet (ﷺ) did not do:
◦ Pass comment or tell the woman to change her attire◦ Tell the woman to cover her face◦ Tell her that her appearance was too enticing
He (ﷺ) merely averted Al-Fadl’s stare.
So, how/why do some men (and women) effortlessly critique the apparel of others? Why is the emphasis often on the woman to conform to what the man views as acceptable? She observes the ḥijāb out of adherence to the most High, not you, or your thoughts.
It is so very dangerous to link clothing and outward appearance with a person’s religiosity. Every single person has their own battle, do not belittle them.
And Allāh alone knows best.

The marriage struggles of Muslim women

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The process of trying to find a partner can be horribly, utterly brutal. Fumble, stumble, trip, run into a dead end-this is the thorny path of so many singles. But are all marriage struggles created equal? Broken hearts are certainly not the sole domain of women, but there are any number of reasons why the marriage process can be particularly difficult for women. This is a condition not at at all specific to Muslims, but as always, the intersection of faith and universality makes for some sad, weird and lol-worthy results. Let’s take a closer look at why it is that women are so often at the losing end of the marriage process:

1.) Time pressures

Tick tock, tick tock. Or so women are constantly being reminded. There is such a small window of time during which women are actually viewed as eligible marriage material, spanning in some circles from…

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Surah Kahf Illustrated Quran Book Now for Sale

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Teaching Kids the Holy Quran

Alhamdulillah.

I wanted to personally give you all the good news that the illustrated book on Surah Kahf (with 146 pages containing over 220 images, built using Lego bricks and other toys, with the full exegesis (tafseer) of the Surah Kahf) is now out for sale.  It’s available primarily on Amazon.com (US, Canada and Asia), just in time for Eid. Here are the links to order the book:

Amazon (for readers in USA, Canada, Asia, Africa)
http://www.amazon.com/Teaching-Kids-Holy-Quran-Meaning/dp/1492331023/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1381082251&sr=1-1

Amazon (for UK customers)
http://www.amazon.co.uk/Teaching-Kids-The-Holy-Quran/dp/1492331023/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1381082843&sr=8-1&keywords=mezbauddin+mahtab

Amazon (for readers in France)
http://www.amazon.fr/s/ref=nb_sb_noss/275-2910051-4791220?__mk_fr_FR=ÅMÅŽÕÑ&url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=mezbauddin+mahtab

Amazon (for customers in Germany)
http://www.amazon.de/Teaching-Kids-The-Holy-Quran/dp/1492331023/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1381082795&sr=8-1&keywords=mezbauddin+mahtab


Currently there is a sale on the book (regular price US$24.99, but discounted on Amazon.com) available for early orders. I have ordered previously on Amazon.com, and have been a highly satisfied customer with their prompt shipping and customer service, and can thoroughly recommend them.

Just a bit of note about the price

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